When I was working on my bachelor's, I was blessed, or lucky, or however you wish to put it, to take a literature course taught by a professor that believed something I think we all should learn and apply:
If you're never offended, you're probably not learning.
I like to take that to the next level. We've all heard someone say "it's your right to be offended," and that's true. Constitutionally, it's part of our first amendment rights. Ethically, it's something that happens in our heads and can't be stopped by anyone else. Personally, it's part of how we react the the world around us. But with every right comes responsibility.
I believe it is out responsibility to be offended, fairly often, and to react accordingly.
Allow me to explain with an example from my own life. If you ever get the chance, read "The Bluest Eye" by Toni Morrison. You may recognize the author's name, she's a truly amazing novelist. Between the years 1975 and 2018, she received 40 different awards for her work. She is an excellent author, and her book, "The Bluest Eye" offended me so deeply that I was forced to realize how much of a hypocrite I was.
At the time in my life that I read the book, which was part of that aforementioned literature course, I had attested repeatedly that every human being deserves to be treated as a person. Perhaps I'll go into detail on that later, but part of that is allowing them to tell their story. That's a right, to tell their story as they see fit, it's part of freedom of speech but also part of how we should treat every fellow person.
There is a passage in "The Bluest Eye" that takes the perspective of a child molester. Even now, just mentioning what the character was twists my stomach because to me there are few kinds of people that are worse than a child molester, if there are any. That passage treats the child molester just like every other character who's narrations filled the story up until that point. It treated them as a person, a human being, with complex thoughts and feelings, who did the right thing during the time of the narration. My immediate reaction was to become very, very offended.
If you've been paying attention, you probably noticed the same thing I did moments later; my being offended was hypocritical. All Morrison had done was treat that character like a person, and let them tell their story. She treated them exactly as I had been demanding for years that everyone should be treated, but I was offended. This realization offended me even more deeply, because how dare someone point out to me, in my own mind no less, how I was failing to meet my own standards.
In those moments, being offended was not merely my right, but my responsibility. It was my responsibility to respond to injustices both in the story and in my own mind, and reconcile them. The end result, for me, was to re-examine what I meant by person-hood, and why it was important. I grew from the experience, and my outlook has never been the same as it was before that day. But that's where the story ends, basically.
That is part of the point of me saying "react accordingly." It is our right and responsibility to be offended, but it is not our right to use our being offended as justification to perform acts that harm others. Being offended is something that can help us grow, can help us acknowledge how others are fundamentally different, or at the very least help us understand where we draw the line on certain ideas. It does not grant us license to enforce our beliefs on others.
Be offended. Be deeply offended. Consider what caused that offense, and whether or not it is worth being offended over. Consider whether or not you need to change because of what offends you. Maybe even express that offense to others, to let your voice be heard on the matter. There is nothing wrong with those actions. Even entering a debate with someone because something they said or did offended you can be very helpful to both parties, but do not fall into the trap of believing that because you are offended, you are right.
If you're never offended, you're likely never exposing yourself to viewpoints other than ones with which you already agree. If you're never offended, you're likely not having the opportunities to grow that others are having, and you may stagnate. If you're never offended, you may not even know what you stand for or stand against. Be wary of never being offended.
Now, I know you probably want to know how I changed from the experience from above, so I'll take the time to explain it, to lessen your worry. I reaffirmed that every human deserves to be treated as a person, but do not mistake person-hood with goodness. When we treat those among us that do very bad things as animals, we ignore the standard we should hold them to, and we ignore the reality that humanity is capable of horrible, horrible things. If an animal kills someone, we put it down, and often it is a tragedy. The animal could not understand, necessarily, that it shouldn't kill, it acted out of instinct. That is not true of a person. A person should be judged as one who could have done better, but chose not to. A child molester should not merely be put down because they are a broken animal, they should be held accountable for the lives they've absolutely destroyed, knowing that their victims were fellow humans, and refusing to care about that fact. In my personal opinion, a clean death is far too good for them, and the only way I can justify that belief is to believe that they must be treated as persons, not as animals. We do not dehumanize because that will give them an out, and all those like them. We give them the full benefits, and requirements, of humanity. We should treat them not as a broken animal, but a horrible human being, and the latter is far worse than the former.
Don't let that make you believe that I think that all choices or mistakes should be judged as harshly. Those who suffer from substance abuse disorders will do horrible things because of those disorders; the proper treatment of them is to attempt rehabilitation. The same is true for those who live in such poverty that they commit crimes to meet their basic needs. Even those who commit crimes to fit in with their local subculture should be rehabilitated if at all possible. They are people, and if a person can be rehabilitated, it is better for everyone that they are.
However, I understand if you disagree with me on either account. If what I said offended you, that doesn't mean you're wrong. It also doesn't mean you're right. It means you need to search yourself and decide for yourself whether you are right, wrong, or something else. And that is why I tell you to be offended, because being offended can be a very, very good thing if you use it correctly.
Alright, that's all for today. As I've said before, if you're following along I will "see" you in tomorrow's post, and have a great day. Goodbye!